Office Politics –Getting Back on Errant Friend

by chess master on 07/01/10 at 8:44 pm

This arti­cle is about vengeance. 

Two dif­fer­ent back­grounds for this arti­cle are:

• You and your best buddy are friends over 15 years now. You two came a long way:you shared some hard time, fights, fun, trips, and women. You name it. At one point in life we all made some changes. One of them can be relo­ca­tion to other state, another can be mar­riage. Now the time you two hang out is reduced. Nat­u­rally this is a strange sit­u­a­tion for both of you. But because you are good friends for so many years, you get over it and adjust to this new sit­u­a­tion. Remem­ber you are an “office survivor”.Dicipline of office pol­i­tics is not just at the office but it goes when­ever you are-at home with your wife, child, the dog; your par­ents and your friends. In your blood, runs the sur­viv­ing gene.
• When that new worker arrived to the office, you decided to train him for your own rea­sons. That guy, being new, accepted you as his men­tor for the time being. Few years past and your rela­tion­ship become tighten up to hang­ing out some­time after work, shar­ing office pol­i­tics secrets with each other and more. At one point you got some pro­mo­tion and moved to higher rank in the office, while you still try­ing to keep the friend and help him, some­how you feel some­thing changed in his atti­tude and he is no longer seek­ing for your friendship.

At one point you have decide to make a change. it can be either you started run­ning a Web­site blog, try­ing to earn bit from it, or it can be a strate­gic move in the office that will make the com­pany earn­ing more while your name will be there to remem­ber, or any other thing that can lift you higher than you are, and may help you in the mil­lion dol­lar race before age 40!.

So, nat­u­rally you go to your friend to ask from his/her sup­port in your move. You are sure he will sup­port your actions. You have in mind sim­ple stuff he might help you-put some com­ments in arti­cles, start a rumor in the office, whatever.

How wrong you are!

What you see is just the oppo­site reaction:

First he tries not to con­tact you-not answer­ing your phone calls, and when he does, he is always busy at some­thing else. He has no time for your request-a friend request, not a super­vi­sor demands. You start to feel you lose this guy– he is neglect­ing your friend­ship. So, as an office sur­vivor you address him face to face and demand from him to do some action you need him to do. This is a friend­ship test and there can be sev­eral results for it:

• He can come to his con­cise and under­stand the err he has made. If he does, don’t make it hard for him to apol­o­gize and con­tinue with ease. Ask him again nicely to do the stuff you need him to do, and make sure to fol­low up on him later. if his reac­tion was pure he will do it right away, other wise don’t wait more than a day and address him again, this time firmly and demand from hum straight answer: either  he is will­ing to help you or not. If the answer is yes, because it’s the sec­ond time con­fronta­tion, demand again that he will help you right away fill­ing your needs.
• He can answer right away he has not the time, nor the will to help you. At that point you need to under­stand that argu­ing with him won’t help. yelling at him, curs­ing , per­suad­ing or threaten him wont help. Your friend­ship is some­how ruined and you need to accept that fact. Instead, smile, assure him you under­stand, try to make it as gen­uine as pos­si­ble. What you need is to make sure he will not sus­pect you from now on; he knows he is doing some­thing wrong, but he is not will­ing to admit it. So, repeat sev­eral times that you under­stand and it’s ok. Repeat it until you feel 100% sure he is not sus­pect­ing you. Than, for the next few days, visit him at his place, talk smoothly with him; make him feel you are look­ing for his friend­ship once more. This behav­ior will make him think that you made to error, and not him, so between this con­tra­dic­tions in his mind, get­ting back to be old pals is much easy for him.

At the mean time, you need to make a plan that will get back at him. As we said in the begin­ning of the arti­cle, vengeance baby.

You might ask “why do I need to get back at him? Why do I need to think on him?”

Well, from office pol­i­tics point of view, he has just pissed at you. There is a good pos­si­bil­ity that he has anther secret worker and they are talk­ing on you behind your back. You can’t allow it-you can allow him to make you look loser. If you won’t do action, rests assure this sce­nario will be spread all over the office, with sev­eral per­mu­ta­tions all mak­ing you look like a loser. Look at it as either is basic psy­chol­ogy or the Testos­terone is moti­vat­ing you.

So, you start work­ing on a plan. Now, for this you need to go back to you high school years, and remem­ber how you all got back at some­one else. The cre­ativ­ity will come from the inner child in you, (if you are man) and the more you will think about it, the thirst for blood will be higher.

So, let’s see how we can back at him. By get­ting back it can be dis­honor his “good” name in the other employ­ees /or should we say class mates-we did went back to age 16 right?
Or we can lever­age our self on his back, using his net­work­ing con­nec­tions to help you with­out him to under­stand what just hap­pened. It wont effect his name thou, but it will sure help you.

Here is one example

The office sur­vivor 16 years plan:

You open a web­site on his name, put sev­eral images of him you found in the web and direct from this site to some porn site, yes, porn. Then you go and spread this site between his friends (either send anony­mous mail to every­body, or if you want to start a war use you name), say­ing you are very sur­prised to see he has a web­site and a really good one. If you want to earn from this, make sure you have some ads there. Rest  assure they will come immediately-The office pol­i­tics way of liv­ing is nav­i­gat­ing between vul­tures and lions look­ing for some dead meat. Try to imag­ine the big sur­prise they will get when they will be redi­rected to the porn site.

• The good in this action is that you heart him under the belly, with clean swipe com­mando oper­a­tion. You will feel very good.
• The bad start at one point, when you  think it over and a ques­tion comes to you: “am I break­ing the law here ruin­ing this guy good name? Is break­ing our friend­ship is equal to bad rep­u­ta­tion”. Although his action made your rep­u­ta­tion looks bad, this is much more. In addi­tion, you need to expect pay­back from him.

The office sur­vival 35 years old plan:

You reach the deci­sion to use this guy net­work­ing resource for your own good. Now this is much bet­ter plan. In the long run, it might help you more than go to a war. Diplo­matic in the office pol­i­tics is the right way. So instead of adult links you redi­rect to read­ers to your posts, one of the will be this one. You go to his face book page and start prais­ing him on his post .all his friend will see your com­ment and nav­i­gate there to read it, reach­ing yours instead.

• the good is that you didn’t acted as a child but rather as adult, you used his net­work­ing for your own self­ish good, with­out mak­ing any real dam­age very office sur­vivor tac­tic move-you are the office pol­i­tics master.
• The bad is that you really didn’t taste his blood, but rather you success.

For con­clu­sion:

• We encour­age the reader to add their ideas of get­ting back as a com­ment to this article.
• Before do any of the action above, go and dis­cuss it with some trusted per­son who may help you reach a bet­ter decision.
• Always take one more day before do any­thing that might get back at you like boomerang.

And for the last thing: don’t ever try to apolo­gies for you action, always know the truth that that guy made the mis­take, it can be out of jeal­ousy or envy. Doesn’t mat­ter. You might be good friends for some time, but even mar­ried cou­ple gets divorced!

 

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