Learning from failure

Suc­cess always holds an ele­ment of luck and a lit­tle help of ungrudg­ing– there­fore it’s very easy to learn from them, while fail­ure on the other hand means you have to learn from expe­ri­ence; requires to “reverse engi­neer­ing ” of the politic sce­nario you and the other play­ers were,to gen­er­ate a value from it – this will give you a way of perspective,what is needed to be done in order to suc­cess the next time.

1. Develop social skills - be pleas­ant to the peo­ple you are work­ing with, not just ones you serve (i. e cus­tomers). You don’t have to love every­one who works with you, as some has dis­gust­ing behav­ior which you may dis­liked – in this case stay away from them but be polite and pleas­ant ‚when you ask them for things don’t for­get to thank them for their help. Pro­vide exem­plary behav­ior and pos­i­tive, prac­ti­cal and emotional.
2. Avoid being aggres­sive as this is may be trans­lated to a lack of pro­fes­sional and con­fi­dence – the sanc­tu­ary of the inse­cure. It isn’t pleas­ant to work with a per­son whom is aggres­sive as work can’t be done when one per­son pull it to his direc­tions all the time.
3. Emo­tional intel­li­gence – arrival of a new employee, changes the other employ­ees  sta­tus and it may  risk their future in the office. You have to nav­i­gate your­self socially and polit­i­cally using your emo­tional intel­li­gence, there­fore you have to under­stand, assess and man­age the emo­tions of other peo­ple by map­ping their con­cern and allow­ing them to build their trust in the sys­tem again. You should not trans­mit peo­ple uncer­tainty as this raises the “future ques­tion” once again.
4. Play Pol­i­tics as clean as you can - Be hon­est and reli­able, encour­age oth­ers with their suc­cess, the help, the knowl­edge or offers   they gave you, do not try to take credit for some­one else suc­cess – this will be reflected as antag­o­nism and inse­cu­rity .
5. “Be large” – hold a large per­cep­tion of your world and ana­lyze solu­tions, don’t try to be petty or man­age and con­trol every­one, spread respon­si­bil­i­ties among oth­ers and let them con­trol and man­age their time tables, trust the ones around you and act accord­ing to crises in the same man­ners you would want to be act in sim­i­lar posi­tion. Have proac­tive atti­tude in your work­ing envi­ron­ment and send a “mes­sage” to every­one that you are capa­ble to think out of the box, believe in changes and in fix­ing wrong.  Make sure that the envi­ron­ment sees you do not pro­duce prob­lems, but busy pro­vid­ing solu­tions, insti­tu­tion­al­ize effec­tive work processes, pleas­ant and flowing.
6. Don’t fall into non pro­fes­sional  traps – yes, you are an expe­ri­ence pro nor a junior. First and most act “as a man “and behave appro­pri­ate to oth­ers. Don’t fall into pro­fes­sion­al­ism traps that will make you lose your sen­si­tiv­ity and act as a “robot” with­out involve­ment and close­ness to peo­ple. Share oth­ers with infor­ma­tion regard­ing your per­sonal life and sta­tus – what you have done over the week­end, where have you been trav­el­ling, what are your pref­er­ences, etc… act­ing in that way causes less stress and allows you to get closer to others.
7. Moral­ity – many orga­ni­za­tions hold reli­a­bil­ity tests as part of the employ­ees absorp­tion, their  tests exam­ine employ­ees per­cep­tions about var­i­ous situation’s (from small, as steal­ing pen from the office, to big, as steal­ing money). Act with morals – “if every­one behave like me, the com­pany will be pos­i­tive or neg­a­tive”. If every­one acts aggres­sively and shout you have to change your ways.

Pol­i­tics are all about resources allo­ca­tion. There is only one man­ager and every­one star­ing at him because of class, finan­cial rewards and power. The will to advance may cause daily con­flicts. with the will to be faith­ful to you and express your­self at work.The envi­ron­ment requires us to run a com­plex man­ner and be pro­fes­sional as at the end of the day we came to work, pro­duce, and con­tribute to increase profit — yet to ini­ti­ate, moti­vate processes, moti­vate employ­ees and max­i­mize our indi­vid­ual capa­bil­i­ties.

The only way to suc­ceed is to rec­og­nize the moti­va­tions dri­ving you and to get rid of neg­a­tive pat­terns and adopt pos­i­tive properties.

Think of a good man­ager you had and try to under­stand why you enjoyed work­ing with him. Imple­ment your answer about yourself.

I will con­clude with a speech from Nel­son Man­dela (1994)who quoted Mar­i­anne Williamson–(Return to Love)(1992)

Our deep­est fear is not that we are inad­e­quate. Our deep­est fear is that we are pow­er­ful beyond mea­sure. It is our light, not our dark­ness, that most fright­ens us. We ask our­selves, who am I to be bril­liant, gor­geous, tal­ented, and fab­u­lous? Actu­ally, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your play­ing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s noth­ing enlight­ened about shrink­ing so that other peo­ple won’t feel inse­cure around you. We are all meant to shine, as chil­dren do. We are born to make man­i­fest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in every­one. And as we let our own light shine, we uncon­sciously give other peo­ple per­mis­sion to do the same. As we are lib­er­ated from our own fear, our pres­ence auto­mat­i­cally lib­er­ates others.

Read this  to empower your­self when you lose con­fi­dence, get into trou­bles or fail because you wasn’t’ real.

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