How an Office survivor pick up his freinds in the office
by admin on 26/11/09 at 9:18 pm
you go to work every .its becomes your second home. you spend there at least 8 hours, and in that time you are involved in some much activity’s:talking with other employees and friends, persuading your boss,gossiping with others, lie to several people, blind siding several more-yes, an every day basis for the office survivor –master in the office politics. you need to do what you need to do for survive in the office. so, lets focus on the issue with whom you hang out the most in the office?which people you pick up to work with ?go to lunches with them? one interesting article try to explain and provide some tips how to pick up your friends (http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/05/06/how-to-pick-the-people-you-work-with/) though it’s has some good insights(
- men pick up woman who laugh at his jokes-sad but true –BUT NOT for the “office survivor”.a true survivor see above these Cliche will never fall to these pretty smiles of these nasty women-yes nasty-they know they don’t have much to give in actually work so they try to “pick you up” like in a bar. don’t hesitate to manipulate them and eventually they will stop trying and become less laughing which will bring them to become maybe more productive at work and less in trying to survive and let you do it.
- you should hang out with people who are not better looking than you-well this is a good advice for the average mini person who don’t think a lot of himself. definitely not for the master in office-politics. look is not that important when picking up friends. a friend who hang out with you because you are less good looking then him is a leacher and you don’t want to hang out with him-but on second though, keep going with him,give him the feeling is better than you and look for some Achilles point where you can F% him later.
- choose people that swear is written in that article but is explained in the wrong manner. people who swear are people who have confidence in them self to be open and true. these are good guys and they can be your good friends because they will tell you the true in your face. inspire the team with off color has minimal effect.
- the last topic was to choose a good mentor-with this we have to agree. you can read about how to find one ‚here:
http://www.theofficesurvivor.com/archives/office-survivor-politics-a-guide-to-find-a-mentor) ok.,we done with the review. lets have some deep insight regarding this issue: It all comes down to the fact how you feel about yourself. for an average person, the topics above are true enough but for the office survivor-office politics master, there are other point to consider office survivor don’t know everything. all people don’t know everything. but the office survivor is willing to admit it ‚willing to learn, while the average who pick up friends that are not pretty than him , will probably pick ones who are not smarter than him. the office survivor must look for the people which he think are smarter than him-faster than him. this way he evolves and learn. he is not afraid of them. probably because he know that there are not that much out there. and every one is in potential to be his mentor.this is how you become master in office politics. its true that for being an office politics master you need good relationships with all type of people, so don’t go only for the smarter., but don’t pick them because these lame excuses– pick them because you need also the mob to talk to and maybe you will learn from them also. look around you. you will notice that most organization surround them self with 80 percent average and 20% really smart people. thing where you want to be-if you are a true office survivor do the math. if organization would pick up more smart people and less average, job will be done quicker and sometime the mid manager don’t want this. so they will pick 1,2 true office survivors and 10 more to do their bidding without question’s leaving in fear-looking to befriend with not to good looking.…
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Lee
Dec 11th, 2009
There is an advice for men.… but nothing for women.
So, If you are a female – Never, but never.… choose your ”best friend“ to be a female as well!!! Even if you think you found your new soul mate(99% it simply does not work)
Shadowmaster
Dec 11th, 2009
Hi Lee,
the situation with women is unique as it doesn’t really matter if it’s at home, the supermarket, at the office or what so ever … women will (for some reason) tries to show superiority. as females for some reason will always try to stub each other in the back or to show the others who’s the best.
also when women are friends in the office everything is ok and fine until one of them is being promoted — this is the time when the friendship is thrown out of the window.
Kate
Dec 11th, 2009
Even if you find nice interesting new friends at work – try to spend with them as much as you can at work… BUT.… as less as you can out of the office!
Involving personal life with professional life brings more troubles than help.…
Shadowmaster
Dec 11th, 2009
Hi Kate,
this is interesting point of view but as you know we pick our friends by finding out mutual interests. the working environment provide most of us a big mutual interest — work, i think that if there are at least 3 mutual interests besides work there is no reason why not to hang out after working hour.
if involving personal life with profession life means trying to have some sort of relation with someone at the office than again ‚the rule above still holds, but at this case you have to remember to pay attention that there isn’t conflicts due to 2 different positions that might have collision; example: a secretary and her direct boss, as a little fight and god knows what’s going to be with the secretary…
Hana
Dec 11th, 2009
Hi Kate
I totally agree with you. indeed 99% it wont work, from my own expreience, she tend to back stab you at one point.
Mark R.
Dec 25th, 2009
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